behold! The Queen!

 

~~had I mentioned that Ms. R played The Queen in her dance company’s big winter production of Cinderella (adaptation: “If the Shoe Fits”) last month? You do remember the story, and how Queen fits in? To refresh, Queen’s singular mission in life is to marry off her beloved son, The Prince, so that he may get on with his parent-prescribed singular mission of producing a worthy heir to the throne.

Ruby as Queen, Upset

That’s it. End of discussion. Queen is tired of waiting for her starry-eyed son to bust a move on this, so she plans a grand party, The Ball, to expedite. Prince will obey and choose on that night.

Hahahahaha!  The poetic metaphor of it all. Mom wants  to navigate kid’s life, kid says no way hose-A. Or, something inappropriate to that effect.

Kid has much better ideas. Nearly always. Where the metaphor ends in Real Life is how Mama must handle these kinks in The Plan. Bursting into tears of despair is great for an easy-to-follow story line and laughs on stage, but hardly effective for Real Moms and Pops as they attempt the delicate task of guiding their own heirs through the teenage quagmire of destiny-shaping life choices.

Invisibly guiding, I might add, as overt tactics are quickly detected and dismissed with a royal wave of the hand. Wield the guidance over a teen a bit too stiffly, or too loudly, and we are expediently relegated, along with our overstuffed attache of infinite wisdom, to the position of court jester, within the walls of our own palaces. Their own plans may play out with more drama than we want to sign up for, but honoring their instincts does seem the way to go, in the end.

Think how Cinderella turns out.

I’ll leave it at that. I daresay we are now overstuffed on witty metaphor for the moment.  Shall we digest and reconvene after High Tea?

No? Bugger off, then!  Cheerio!

 

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the shoes

On the other hand (-er–foot)…

having a teenage daughter in the house does have its advantages. Take my wardrobe, for example. Please.

At least take my old one.  Because you see, I have entered the exciting era of In-House-Discards-Shopping.

Let me explain. She, at the shiny age of 15 , has become obsessed with clothing and fashion. With the dough she makes at her sweet hostess job, which she can walk to, yo, as in, no need for car and contingent car expenses in her forseeable future, whoohoo!  she treats herself to some great threads, which she meticulously shops for online from her favorite stores. She has gotten really good at it.

Unlike ME, who is NOT  good at it anymore, mostly because I have been broke for about 15 years now and am, therefore, pathetically out of practice.

MY “wardrobe”, and you have to understand the northern ski-town aspect of where I live to understand this possibility,  is made up of :  

1.) Jeans

And then some other stuff, most of it pushing–surprise!–15 yrs old, all dutifully “spiced up” with a smattering of local Browse N Buy “finds” which are also, obviously, old, but not to me. The few newer “pieces,”  like the essential warmth-giving kind, or the equally-useful don’t-make-you-sweat kind, are hastily bought, or gifted, or passed along and graciously accepted by fashion-unconscious moi.  M-O goes something like, “this fits and doesn’t make me look fat–I’m in, thanks!”

And though this sounds like I am a bag lady, or must look like one,  my “look” really isn’t that bad. I don’t think.

Truth be told, some of my trove dates back even further than pre-Mother days (which, when analyzed, makes no sense and maybe will make your head explode).   “vintage!” “shabby-chic!”  I KNOW the words!  For instance, my leather dingo boots I bought when I was, I think, 17. Even I know these things totally rock. Fashionistas  sometimes ask where I got them, and I looove answering (read: lying about) that question…because I still remember buying them on store-closin’ dirt cheap clearance–$29.99 or something absurd even for boots that nobody wore in the 1980’s–and now when I see similar grade boots in those indigo-and-turquoise-worshippin’, horses-on-our-Montana-ranch sort of fashion catalogs, they list at more like $400.

“Sundance, mail order. Fall ’11 issue, maybe…hmm, I for-ge-e-t.”

 

Ha ha!  I win. But I digress.  My *vogue-a-licious teenage daughter wouldn’t be caught dead in something from last year, never mind  the last decade. She has no perspective on that kind of thing, bless her teen-age heart. She gets tired of her stuff on a more “seasonal” basis. I used to be irritated by this. But that was before she had an income. Now I just smile, because I know that soon, very soon, this sort of fashion behavior will become impractical.  I told her this a few times, and  I think she gets it in theory, the whole scrap-your-way-thru-college thing…”poppin’ tags, $20 in my pocket, sure, that’s cool and am-us-ing, Mom”  Meantime, she buys, she wears, she moves on.

Enter the Mom. I am sort of small, and boyishly shaped…which is a nice way of saying that even as a 40-something I have no boobs or hips.  Which in this particular scenario is a great advantage. HER piles of discards become MY upscale Scrap N Shop from Home, and the staples of my new N groovier wardrobe.

Okaay, maybe NOT the roadkill-inspired superskinny jeans

and avoiding  the more upsetting teenage t-shirt designs

But that still leaves  jackets, shirts, shoes, boots, sneakers, scarfs .. yo Macklemore! this ain’ no Goodwill neither!  .. hats, purses, tote bags–breath–miscellaneous accessories and  jewelry.

Voila!   Scrapper-Turns-Fashionista, all for the modest price of…

oh……………15 years of selfless mothering.

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* vogue-a-licious is a word I invented today, until I thought again and Googled it, finding this:

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take off your pilgrim hat and snap to it

I wrote that “pilgrim hat ” line once in a newspaper column called Doubletake I birthed during college…the piece was about all the demonic stuff everyone would soon be lining up to buy for Christmas. The Haves vs. The Have Nots. The wise little Whos down in Whoville.  “Only 21 Shopping Days Left..” the title quipped, smug in its college journalist omniscience about Life 101.  How wise I had become at 20 years of age!

Long time since then.   too long… I have a daughter ready to launch into academia in  10–9–8–7…

groober

What this actually means is that I now know very little whereas she knows A LOT. I’m still scratching my head, wondering where and when I traded it, the

omniscience  (dictionary-geeked this. Go ahead,  click . I damn-near wrote omnipotence,  see  almighty  authoritywhich I have yet to achieve  ..or lose)

for total confusion, about most things.

This {Monday} morning she stumbled out of here at 7:15, juggling a pile of books, laptop and trailing cord, half-loaded backpack (unzipped, half slung on), no breakfast (or lunch) naturally, to start anew after an entire luxuriant “Thanksgiving Holiday” week off  from both academics and her dance schedule. A whole week off. Better than most high school kids get. You’d think she might have managed ONE DAY with a well-prepared launch. launch~lunch . a launch, with lunch.

This is my little “overachiever” in her usual modus operandi.  I spellchecked that, as I rarely have cause to write  it out.  Now, as a Mother, I do, as I find myself discussing her behavior, aka m.o.,  with my partner Mike about every fifteen seconds. It is baffling. Be honest–exasperating. Memories of myself as a teenager  are only small consolation.  was only like that because Mom was a psycho and I was acting out.  NO!  I am  NOT HER, I am the clued-in one who was going to break the mold on Motherhood. I would impart my Love, and Gentle Wisdom upon my precious, precious offspring who would heed, and flourish.

Fast-forward to  November  26, 2012.   Chaos.   Offspring knows how the job is done.  Could be stepping squarely into a steaming pile of dog poo. On a vibrating train track.  But  PLease don’t tell her AGAIN. *roll eyes*  PLeeeeeZe.

The holiday dance performance of “Cinderella” woozy with anticipation~what awaits us is now looming. Tech Week#1 is now in progress. At home this means a re-heated dinner plate at 9 pm , followed by a “rigorous” i.e., ass-load  roster of  high school homework. Bedtime? Hahahaha–don’t ask if you are a mere mortal.  She will do this every day for the rest of the week. And again next week, before the shows start. But, We Shalt Not Whine, for this is the life of a Junior Repertory Company member/ Community School student. Not a child prodigy. Just another kid with a dream to be good at something, get noticed, maybe grab a scholarship to a decent college. easy-peasy.

Chaos.  Was my high school experience this insane?  Or has the game just gotten insanely competitive?  Can I blame my daughter for flying by the seat of her pants through this? What do I really know about the pressure she is under?

As I was saying, it’s time to take off those pilgrim hats and get busy, kiddos.  Three weeks ’till  Semester One of Junior Year is over!!  Grades will be forever etched onto the Stone Tablets of Your Lives!!  Admissions Officers across the land will come forth to drink from The Fountain of Data, making marks upon their mighty scrolls! The moment draws near!

Me, maybe I’ll go buy my little college-bound, Who’s Who achiever  a heap of  her favorite demonic stuff  for X-mas. New clothes, of course. Right now, so she can revel in them before the dread of finals. Instant gratification + materialism =  Survival Strategy 101 . As any good capitalist knows.

All due respect to those you-know-Whos in the tiny hamlet of Whoville..which I believe is still socialist.

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